This Is Not A Joke. . .

This particular subject is a very serious matter. I don't take it lightly at all. Domestic abuse. I'm not going to sit here and throw all these stats and data at you, but I will say that it has become too common now. What gives a man the right to put his hands on a female? The way I was raised, it's unacceptable behavior. Let me throw this in there too; I don't believe a woman needs to hit a man. When she does she now puts herself in that position of a man and only God knows what will happen. So many women have been in this situation. Women I know personally and am close to have been in this situation so you can imagine how serious I take this. It angers me. There is always some psychological reason as to why men hit women. Some say it's because they've been exposed to it and that's all they know. Maybe it’s an anger issue? I do want to know one thing though; why do some women stay? I can never wrap my mind around it. Maybe it's a self-esteem issue or maybe they're afraid and don't see a way out. Either way, there IS a way out. Leave. Leave and don't look back. No matter how many times he's said he's sorry or how much you love that person. It's bullshit. The one you're with clearly needs help that is beyond your power. At some point you have to choose yourself. If you are in the position to fight back, do it. It is about choosing yourself. Now there are different types of abuse, but I posted links below for anyone who is currently experiencing abuse. Hopefully it helps someone.

Web sources:

http://www.thehotline.org/

http://www.justice.gov/ovw/local-resources

Hotline:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Servers and Tips

I remember working at Steak n Shake (if you don't know what that is, Google it) and how the servers would sometimes complain that they didn't get a tip from their table. It frustrates me when a server has provided great service and they do not receive a tip. Even when you are a complete ass wipe to them, they still smile and do they're job. Tip your servers. They work hard for. Tip them. Now if the service just sucks then, okay, I get it. When I say "service sucks", this does not mean your food came out late. The servers don't control how fast your food comes out. Blame the production team. They are the ones that cook the food. You can't blame the servers for something that is actually out of their control. The only thing they can do is OCCASIONALLY light a fire under the cook's ass, but that may only go so far. Tip your servers. When your service sucks, your food is sitting in the window for 15 plus minutes after the cook has called out for your server to pick it up and you see it sitting there while your server is socializing. When your service sucks, your server doesn't refill your drink like they're suppose to. When your service sucks, your server has a stank attitude and is rude to you. I'm the person that won't tip because of the server not doing what they're suppose to. Not because of something they can't control. So tip your servers, when they are doing their job.

Customer Service Reps Have Power

Wondering what I mean by this? A customer service rep has all of your personal information in their system.  So when you call them cursing, yelling, and screaming; they can easily make matters worse if they want. Remember, they have your address, SSN. . .need I go on? The reps can easily come find you. They can mess up your account, but you want to call cursing them out? That's why whenever I call, I breathe and pray if I get that frustrated. I always keep in mind that I've been on the other side, so I know what they go through. No one REALLY likes dealing with customer service, but unfortunately, we have to. Whatever you're planning on saying that is rude and belligerent, breathe and keep in mind It's not the reps fault your shit doesn't work, so stop it. You look stupid. They get you're frustrated because it doesn't work and you're paying for it. You expect the shit to work. That’s understandable. But what is cursing the rep out going to do. Energy is not destroyed, but it is transferred. So what happens when come across a crazy rep, you now have someone that is looking for you. They know exactly where you live, so now what? Sounds a bit drastic, but speaking from personal experience, there have been a few occasions where I was tempted to do so. Also, don't get upset when the reps or the managers are unable to do something that goes against their policy. I wouldn't risk anything for someone who is not going to take care of me if I lose my job. So I leave you with this; be careful of how you treat people, you never know their mental state.

Number One Relationship Killer: Cheating

This topic I feel a lot of people can relate to. I'm apologizing in advance if I'm jumping all over the place with this. It isn't just men that do it, women do it too. It's never happened to myself (not that I know of) and I've never been one to cheat. If I feel like I have to, then I will stop dealing with you all together. That's just me. I handle things this way for a couple reasons; karma is a bitch, a big one and I have enough respect for the other person to not do it while I'm with them. There are so many reasons why cheating happens. Could be a bad relationship or (let's keep 100) you think your ass can get away with it. In these cases, I have no sympathy for you for what is to come. We all make mistakes, but does the saying "I'm human" make it acceptable? Me personally,  it doesn't. It's so sad that it has become so common, we've become numb to it. Cheating isn't something that just happens,  it's a choice. Keep in mind this is all my opinion. For failing relationships, it doesn't mean you get to look else where, you stay and do what you can to work it out. If the relationship is broken beyond repair, then end that chapter and move on. It's that simple. People make things more complicated that what it really is. Those who think they're just that slick, one word, redrum! Hopefully you know what I mean by that. There are crazies in the world that will chop, shoot and kill your ass real quick over this. See me, I'm that person that believes in bricks in windshields (yeah, you read that right) and cutting brakes. I might cut you too in the process. My emotions are something to NOT play with and will get you severely hurt messing with me. Either way, it just isn't worth it. I would rather you be up front and say "Yo, this ain't workin." Sure I'll be hurt, but I'll respect you in the end. Now, I can't stay with someone after I found out they cheated. This is just my way of thinking; if you do it once, you'll do it again. I refuse to be the fool twice. Also,  man/or woman up to your mistakes. You make it worse when the other person finds out from other sources. This part here is specifically for the ladies. . .KNOW YOUR WORTH! If the man you're involved with keeps doing it, then clearly he doesn't respect you nor does he care about you as much as he claims. I know some people that have cheated on someone because they cheated first. . .what does it really solve, I mean honestly. Now you both look crazy cheating on each other and the deeper issue isn't being resolved. So you've caught him or her cheating. What do you do? Forgive and move forward or end things right then and there? Keep this in mind; if you take that person back, don't be surprised if they do it again. It's not always a bad thing to start over.

"Frenemies"

I was watching an episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta and it hit me; these ladies really don’t like each other. Yet they invite each other on trips?Smile in each other’s face’s then talk bad behind each others back? I don’t get it. Now don’t get me wrong, I enjoy the show (LOVE Kandi lol). So one word came to mind; frenemy. This term “frienemy” comes up quite often on tv or even in our social circle. Now what exactly is a frienemy? its basically someone who is your “friend” and they trash your name behind your back and smile in your face. It isn’t just once sided though. It takes two or more people to make this happen. So now you have multiple people involved. Honestly, I don’t believe in the shit. Either you’re my friend or you’re not and I don’t have the patience to figure you out either. If I’m talking shit behind your back, then clearly I’m not your friend. It amazes me how people put up with it. I’ll just stop dealing with you all together and save myself the headache.

Make up to brake up. . .then make up again?

I honestly don’t see how people do it. You break up with someone… just to get back with them? Then break up again. I honestly don’t have the time or patience for someone to keep coming in and out of my life. Once you leave, you stay gone. You are the ex for a reason and I don’t need you reminding me over and over why things ended the last 5 previous times, it’s too much! Now I’m not knocking anyone who has been in this situation or is currently going through this, but at some point, don’t you realize that things are never going to change? So why keep taking someone back just to go through the same headache again? I know you love this person deeply, but love them enough to let them go and walk out the door to never return because obviously the shit just isn’t working.

Deal Breakers

When we’re interesting in someone, we approach them (or pray they approach us). Sometimes, unfortunately, we come across things or certain characteristics that we cannot and will not deal with and it can ultimately make us loose interest in the person. These are known as deal breakers. I remember a few years ago, I was approached by someone who was interested in getting to know me. This person was very attractive and I was very interested until…this person lit a cigarette. After that, all interest went out the window. That for me is a certified deal breaker. Now I know what you’re thinking; a lot of people do it, but I can’t stand the smell of it. It’s one thing if the person is willing to quit or MAYBE every so often smokes (brush your teeth afterwards damn it!), but smoking as a daily habit is not a good look when approaching me. So I ask you this question; what is your deal breaker? What is that one thing, or some of the things, that just makes you loose interest in someone?